Over the weekend I went to see one of my favorite bands, the Bodeans. I grew up with the band going to their first album release concert in 1986 when I was still in high school. Over the next 22 years I think I've seen them 30 times. I love their music, but its really reminds me of a time in my life. When I hear their songs, I am transported back to college.
I think about my friends, those three gals I saw most of those concerts with. Beth, Michelle and Leslie. We were inseperable. We went everywhere together. Okay maybe we mostly went to the Pub and Monday's together but you get the idea.
But after college it ends. It has to end. Everyone goes their separate ways. You move to different cities. You get married. You have kids. Your life changes. You are not the same person you were back then. You try to stay in touch. And when you get together its fun, you relive the "glory days". But its not really the same. And so you lose touch. You don't want to you just do.
I wish I wasn't that person but I am. I am a good friend but I am not a great friend. I don't keep in touch. I don't call. I may send an e-mail here and there. But its not real contact. So I tend to drift from my friends if they are not in the immediate area.
Looking back, I no longer have contact with any of my high school friends. I live in the same city I went to high school in so I'll occasionally run into someone. But we chat and then move on. College is a bit better. We had lunch last year. We send Christmas cards. But that is it. I'm trying not to let it happen with my law school friends but its hard.
I'm not the kind of friend that I want to be. I'm not the kind of friend I want to have. And I don't like it. As the song says "You don't get much without giving." So this is my gift to my friends. I miss you and I am thinking about you. Wherever you may be.