Friday, September 12, 2008

The (Play)Dating Game

As I've said before, I'm kind of a dork when it comes to making friends. I'm nervous. I get tounge tied and say stupid things, so I don't really talk. Your basic social anxiety.

I'm fine once I get to know you or if we have mutual friends in common. But its that initial meeting that just kills me.

In the past I've met friends on-line. I formed a cooking club and a playgroup with people I hadn't met before. But because we had already "talked", I was fine.

But if you meet me on the playground, you may think I'm a little strange. And of course I am but in a good way.

Which brings us to yesterday. Bunny and I were at the park playing in the sand having a grand old time. I saw a mom I had met on a couple of occasions. Her son C is Bunny's age, which meant that they were playing near but totally ignoring eachother. K and I got to talking and were having a nice time.

But then it was time to go home and eat lunch. I had Bunny say good bye to K and C, which she actually did. I said we'll see you at the park again, blah blah blah. I figured that was that.

But K whips out her business card and gives me her phone number and e-mail. She said they are always looking for new things to do so we should get together.

Inside I was totally freaking out "Oh my goodness. She likes me. She wants to hang out. That's totally cool." But I tried to play it as cool as is possible for me, "Oh yeah, we are always looking for new kids to play with. I'll call you and set something up." All the time praying she wouldn't figure out that I am a total dork.

So now what, internet friends? What do I do? How long do I wait to call to set something up? And I should probably e-mail so I don't say something stupid, right?

See I told you I'm a dork.


EatPlayLove said...

LOL! I would email her and see if you guys can set up a more regular meeting day, unless you have a playgroup already! I don't think the 3 day rule applies here.

Kate Coveny Hood said...

Well lets see... You don't want to seem too eager - so wait until Tuesday to call. And then just casually suggest that you are getting together with some other friends and that she could join you if she was free. That would make it seem less like a date. So if she's not really interested, you haven't actually invested yourself...

Oh wait - I thought I was talking to my single friend in New York.

You nut! Just call her this weekend and set up plans to take the kids out for something fun! Something involving dinosaurs maybe?

MamaCarter said...

Mike: So how long do I wait to call?
Trent: A day.
Mike: Tomorrow.
Sue: Tomorrow, then a day.
Trent: Yeah.
Mike: So two days?
Trent: Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days.
Sue: Definitely, two days is like industry standard.
Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?
Sue: Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious.
Trent: Yeah, two's enough not to look anxious. But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you...
Mike: Yeah, but you know what, mabey I'll wait 3 weeks. How's that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.
Charles: Then ask her where you met her.
Mike: Yeah, I'll ask her where I met her. I don't remember. What does she look like? And then I'll asked if we fucked. Is that... would that be... T, would that be the money?
Trent: You know what. Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.
Mike: Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies?
Trent, Sue: Six days.

Renee said...

First off mad props to MamaCarter for the Swingers reference. Bubs would be so proud of you.

Kate and eatplaylove I think I'll e-mail over the weekend to set something up, just so I don't trip all over my words.

Anonymous said...

I've got similar social "issues," so I can completely relate. I'd email her over the weekend and see if you can set something up for next week. (Of course, I'd then hope and pray that she was busy so I wouldn't have to actually go be social in person but that's just me...)

Anonymous said...

I have no advice. However, The Yamaguchi's are in town, so Payton and I got to spend the day with Jane and Gracie. We were looking longingly at your blog and wishing you lived close enough to join our play dates!!! Maybe next summer?!

Cindy said...

I feel your pain. I too am socially awkward so sadly, I have no good advice for you. Good luck though!

Anonymous said...

Since you've seen her in the park several times already, it's not like you just met her. Besides, the kids should give you enough to talk about...Just call her, who knows what may come of it....

Z said...

Ha, this would totally be my own dilemma, so I have no answers for ya... :)

A.C. said...

Love the new banner picture. Let's see... Ankylosaurus, Brachiosaurus, Triceratops and T. rex. I'm not sure about the other one. Betcha Bunny knows it!

Anonymous said...

LOL, very funny!