Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Grown Up

I am a grown up. I know that. The age I will be next week confirms it. But I don't feel like it. I feel like a kid, a stupid kid some days.

But I act like a grown up most of the time. I am responsible. I take care of small people. I feed them and clothe them. I clean up after them. I get things done.

It's rare that my actions mirror the way I feel about myself. I don't
let go. I'm not silly and stupid. I'm not always fun. Well I am with the kids but not with myself.

It's sad really because I miss silly and stupid. I miss fun. I miss being a kid.

This past weekend I had the chance to be silly and stupid and fun. I spent the weekend with some girlfriends from law school. There were no small people in sight (or at least none that we had to take care of). It was just us reliving the glory days of no responsibilities.

I acted like a kid all weekend long. I laughed. I sang. I danced. I told dirty jokes. I played. I remembered that carefree joy I once possessed.

I want to be that girl, that kid, all the time. I don't want the weight of responsibilities, of what I should do, to wear me down. I don't want to be cranky because "do I really have to repeat myself again? Just listen to me the first or second time and we won't have this problem. No! Put that down. Don't touch that. Don't hit your brother. Don't bite your sister. Just stop it right now!"

There has to be a way to do both, to be fun and happy and to be responsible. Doesn't there?


Scottish lass said...

Oh Renee- I hear you! It's the dilemma of parenthood
Being yourself and a responsible momma.
If you figure it out - bottle it and sell it. I'll buy.
Happy Birthday!

Anonymous said...

Love your blog! We have one biological son and one son adopted from Ethiopia.

I feel like this, too!!! My kids sometimes are more mature than me..."mom, I'm tired, can we leave Disneyland and go home and shower, and go to bed?" - me- "10 more minutes, promise"

Beth said...

Girls weekends are the best. So glad you could get away. Always good, the reminder to laugh hysterically. And I love the thought of you telling a dirty joke!